The Problem: Im very attracted to my boyfriend and I'm thinking of having sex with him, or at least start off with dry sex. The only problem is that he wont get hard. So we cant even go as far as having dry sex. I have no clue on what to do about this. Should i talk to him about it? please HELP!
Asked by: marina18 at
09:55:40 AM, Friday, July 01, 2005 PDT
well maybe he's gay and seein u ***** dont turn him on or maybe he aint attracted to u maybe u can try liken it or sumtin lol
AnonymousJul 02 2005 3:59pmFLAGyea u should jus talk to him about it.
MirLynn2005Jul 02 2005 8:14pmFLAG
jus chat 2 im bout it. if not dump im theres no point avein a b/f if e cnt get hard
AnonymousJul 03 2005 12:15pmFLAGthats deep, ive never had that problem, just maybe he dont like you like what what Anonymous said, Maybe. why dont you tease him, or just try and have sex, and see how it turns out.
NIcole..updateJul 04 2005 5:32amFLAGtry to have sex anyways . have him lick your and do stuff that you think would turn him on
anonymous 1Jul 15 2005 10:21pmFLAGMEN OF ALL AGES CAN HAVE ERECTION PROBLEMS AND VIARA IS THE MOST OBVIOUS TO USE MY BOYFRIEND ALSO HAS ERECTION PROBLEMS ITS NOT THAT HES NOT ATTRACTED TO YOU THESE THING HAPPEN TRY ASKING HIM WHAT HE LIKES AND DO IT MOST MEN REALLY LIKE THERE C*ck SUCKED.
sam xJun 24 2006 2:09pmFLAGMOEN TO HIM AND TELL HIM HOW BAD U WANT TO
LIL REEREEFeb 26 2007 1:45pmFLAGSUCK HIS d*ck THATS WAT I WELL DO
SANDYFeb 26 2007 1:47pmFLAGGET ON TOP AND LET HIM EAT THE BLOOD OUT UR AND SCREAM FOR HELP AND MERCY SUCKING d*ck IS VERY TASTY TRY THAT
BILLYFeb 26 2007 1:50pmFLAGmaybe you should try leaving a pancake on his chest.
ashlieghJun 23 2007 2:01amFLAGJust leave him alone about it maybe if you wouldnt tease him about his loose twat he would be harder....yup hes gay!! or your really ugly!!! in hot and hes just shy because ur so hot or he loves u so much...think...
the wise 1Jun 23 2007 2:04amFLAGAlot of this advice is not helpful -My guess is that he has no problem with morning wood and by himself and that is so nervous and wants to please you that it is causing his problem. Slow down and stop worrying about a hard d*ck and focus on being together and making him feel comfortable and you feeling comfortable. When you ae both at ease things will happen naturally.
The Only ADULT hereSep 01 2007 6:23amFLAGhey girl i am with u on this one but heres the thing.
SAME situation happend to me last night with my boyfriend.
and he had just smoked weed of course. and he wouldnt get hard!
i tried everything. i wanted him to GET THERE.
i gave him a bj...
he fingered me
i GOT on his. C*ck.
do u think that maybe the weed stunts his horniness or am i just screwed?
young and confusedNov 11 2007 2:04amFLAGyes weed has alot to do with that??? and alot of men have issues with their penis...all you can do is talk to him about it??
the one and onlyFeb 06 2008 11:34amFLAGHE lay him down crouch above him and on his chest
marylyn mansonFeb 24 2008 11:31pmFLAG
ewwwww do NOT poop on him. Just kiss him, be playful with him and have fun thats what i do but i dont think my boyfriend has ever got hard before either but when we lay together and were like spooning i can feel it like go up for a second and go back down
annonymousFeb 26 2008 11:40amFLAGtake your time... relax... tease him... kiss him slowly from head to toe and avoid his d*ck... after covering all his body with kisses then dive into his pants and lick it! as he slowly gets hard, suck it harder like you are sucking an ice cream!
boy who had same problemsApr 11 2008 11:20pmFLAGmaybe he masterbates to much and he is only used to pleasing himself. try giving him a hand job and see if you can get him to erupt.
every girls dream guyMay 01 2008 11:50pmFLAGon friday night my boyfriend an i were having sex and when i asked to wear a condom his penis started to get smaller, we couldnt do anything after that, i asked hi mif he likes me and he said yes, hes got no clue on what happened, my advice is talk about it, i know how u feel....
sad sex kittenMay 12 2008 7:45amFLAGmy boybriend and i r having a terrible time, he gets hard and as soon as we are about to go for it, it flops! We've just had a fall out over it coz i feel its me, but i've never had this problem before
SashaJun 18 2008 8:40amFLAGim a lad n ive had this problem before i jst began to relax and didnt think abowt getting an erection jst on how hot the girl was n before i knew it, it was up and ive never had a problem since
bobbyNov 13 2008 8:43amFLAGhere's my advice.
it's not your fault if he dont get him hard.
you will think he isnt attractive to you or something like that.
most boys just get really nervous,and jusr freakout and trying to please you and just cant get hard.
Katie(:Dec 23 2008 7:24pmFLAGi had priapism,my d*ck would stay on hard for 2weeks without going down once,i had surgery now i cant get an erection at all no matter what,if beyonce wanted sex i have to say no cuz i cant perform.it has nothing to do with the partner
hanging shortFeb 25 2009 1:37pmFLAGYOU SHOULD TRY GETTING WITH ME INSTEAD.. I WONT EVER GET UNHARD! :)
TRMDCApr 17 2009 7:41pmFLAGSuck his d*ck.....works like a charm. I'll even do it fo ya
Horny girl....help!May 09 2009 2:07pmFLAGGURL try suckin that d*ck. In the morning or evening, put some kool-aid in yo mouff or something. the purple kinds the best.
MeApr 16 2010 12:03amFLAGU should tell him
Do things that turn him on. Try tit ing
????May 28 2010 7:02amFLAGIm in your same situation. Everytime we try to have sex he all of a sudden isn't hard anymore. It's as if he's thinking about something else. Idk, since I'm in your boat I can't give much advice besides talk to him.
suzJun 18 2010 9:14amFLAGwell i think that you should watch a ***o with him while you guys are doing it :)
alexis [??]Oct 21 2010 5:31pmFLAGI'm in the same boat, dunno what happens he gets hard if i wanna suck him off.. just talk to him bout it.. thats what i'm gonna do
anonymousOct 25 2010 9:39amFLAGi have to same promblem, and hes just a freind, like i just starting doing sexual things, and he wont get hard, i sucked his d*ck today and he still couldnt, just be gental, and dont let that get in the way of your relationship its not worth it at all trust me. :) im sure, sooner, or later youll find out the problem
YOU GAYNov 06 2010 11:49pmFLAG
i hadthe same problem last nite my bf cheatd on me nd i forgave him and ad sex then we changed positions nd he couldnt get hard again?? but he really wanted to but he couldnt get hard
C33Nov 10 2010 3:41pmFLAGSuck his d*ck! I guarantee 100% it will work.
CookieNov 27 2010 6:32pmFLAGtry talking to him about it and see what he says maybe he doent know eithr me and my boyfriend have the same problem and we saw the doctor about it just to find out i8t was because he was nervious! lol (:
spazzyNov 27 2010 11:16pmFLAGIVE BEEN WITH MY BF FOR 3 YEARS AND WERE BOTH 18 AND WEVE HAD THIS PROBLEM TOO :(
WE CAME TO A RELIZATION THAT IT WAS STRESS.SO JUST TRY TALKING TO HIM. BUT DONT MAKE HIM EVEN MORE STRESED ABOUT IT TRY TO UNDERSTAND. GOOD LUCK
myadviceDec 11 2010 11:36pmFLAGjust suck it and get like to men to u and he will probaly get mad and he will ask you is that guys better than him you will say yes and he will go hard to see if thats better gud luck because he going hard
sexygirl and suck it gudJan 29 2011 10:05amFLAGwhen my bf and I first started having sex he was ultimately the best and for the last two days he just wouldn't get hard! is he not attracted to me ? Its the worst feeling coz it leaves a girl feeling very insecure! We spoke about it and he's also really concerned about it!
scared girlMay 14 2011 7:26amFLAGhes a nervous bastard
katyandellieforeverrrrrrrrrrrJul 26 2011 6:58amFLAGHES HAD TOO MANY WANKS INIT
niggga 20202020Jul 26 2011 6:58amFLAGmy boyfriend wont get hard either and i do believe its nervousness but i dont know how to calm him down. also, im really bad at giving head :/
hopelessOct 09 2011 1:14amFLAGMy boyfriend has the same problem and its everytime we have sex.................I just suck it real good and kiss him on his neck it gets rock hard everytime:-)
baddest chickOct 10 2011 2:44pmFLAGsuck his d*ck real hard talk dirty tap his d*ck on ur and enjoy it :)
AnonymousJun 19 2012 7:16pmFLAGplay with that puss in front of his ass be into it and pop a ***o in hell go for thee excitement;)
memeJun 24 2012 3:44pmFLAGi have the same problem and i have done everything besides aked him if hes interested in men. kissed, licked,sucked,rubbed,WAITED, TEASED LET HIM EAT IT bath shower and etc..........so whats next
im Aug 15 2012 2:24pmFLAGI can't give advice esp when I need it. My boyfriendtd me at one point his sons mom is the love of his life, now it seems he's all about me. Loves spending time w me. We make out we for play but when it comes down to sex he won't get hard?? Is he feeling guilty because I'm not his sons mom? Does this mean he is thinking about her? He says that's not the case but my mind is going crazy
KurkMar 24 2013 8:10amFLAGLick and finger his jerk.
hoAug 04 2013 2:05amFLAGLick amd finger his butt hole.
hKnoiyvGOct 25 2013 8:46amFLAGSuck his lump d*ck and then he will get hard in your mouth or make him masterbate for a little while.
Xx_SEXX_xX_Mar 28 2015 5:10pmFLAGSee my boyfriend is the only guy I've ever been with. Now I always dreamed about sex, so my first time was kind of rushed. He actually stopped in the middle of it and didn't even finish. It made me feel stupid af. But idk sex with him has always felt forced. Like I always do all the work. He never touches me in the intent to have sex.... Is that good or bad? It make me wanna cry thinking about it because I look at this man in so much lust. And he could sit there on the Xbox all day. And the last time we attempted to have sex he went limp multiple of times. And when we were trying to spoon I turned around and caught him on his phone... Was he googling or?? I'm so confused I don't know if it's me being too needy in bed or that he just doesn't want me... What do you think? I may not be back on here in a while so if you would... Email me @ firstname.lastname@example.org