The Problem: My step dad is such a jerk! He has two kids that he left years ago, last christmas he invited them over, now he disconects the phone so he doesn't have to talk to them! He told my mom that he had no pride in her because she ate a piece of my brothers easter candy! He told me i was fat and i only weight 0lbs, is that really fat? I can't take it any more! What am i supposed to do?
Asked by: qvwaxgirl at
01:17:40 PM, Sunday, April 14, 2002 EDT
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don't worry amber... I hate my stepdad too.... at least he moved out though...
Lucky! i'm stuck with him! My mom loves him too much to leave him, how can she love that man?
qvwaxgirlApr 19 2002 4:21pmFLAGamber its kry i had no idea tell him you think he's rude or tell ur dad he'll do sumthin bout it call me we'll talk sorry
krynkLApr 20 2002 7:49amFLAGall step dads think that have the power to overcome you but they dont,dont worry about it he will finally realize that he is not your real father and start treating you with respect kk
babydollApr 20 2002 9:10amFLAGI have so much trouble with him! There are times i cry myself to sleep because i want him out of my life soooo much!
qvwaxgirlApr 21 2002 2:58pmFLAGI know this might be hard but tell your mom belive me it works, and if she actually loves you she will think about what you say
AnonymousApr 21 2002 6:35pmFLAG
Hey girl...I hatew my stepdad too!! I know EXACTLY how you feel!...Sometimes I just ignore him...but he gets even worse, so I don't know what to do!...My mother KNOWS I hate him, but we don't see eye to eye on the prob...I'm really sorry for you, and member.YOU'RE NOT ALONE! Love you girl!
WhitneyNov 23 2002 6:43pmFLAGThis response was flagged for inappropriate or offensive content.
A Hard StepdadNov 27 2002 5:47amFLAGThis response was flagged for inappropriate or offensive content.
A Hard StepdadNov 27 2002 5:47amFLAGtell ur stupid step dad to off , i weigh 0lbs and i'm like as skinny as a twig
qtbabi892Nov 29 2002 12:08pmFLAGjust dont talk to him and try not to even look at him and if he asks u a question anwser it but dont look at him...anwser it like u dont care...no ur not fat! 0? that normal! tell him hes has a fat ass !!!!
sweetskittle710Dec 20 2002 5:22pmFLAGoh my god wow ok 0 i definlty not fat that is skinny thats like the perfect weight ok and ur steppy is and ass and tell ur mom what is going on she will be proud of u for telling her
JenFeb 08 2003 9:18pmFLAGU should go 2 ur grandparents or something or call social services cause that is so not fair.
PS 0 is not fat dont worry im 0 and im not fat
cheer102589Feb 22 2003 8:21amFLAGStepdads suck and that's a fact! No matter what you never get use to them. They're always there, getting on your nerves. Just the very sight of them....uh!!!! I hate it!!!
Jen IIFeb 28 2003 11:22pmFLAGI am a father who has three girls who live with their mother and stepfather. They all hate him. I feel sad for him because he loves my ex so much. He should have known what he was getting into, as my girls aged ,,can be right little bitches.I would never marry a woman who has kids who hate me. There is not much you can do, have you tried talking about this with a school teacher that you can trust?
JonathanMar 16 2003 11:44amFLAGThat "hard dad" person is a real jerk, I am a dad too, I would like to punch him in the nose, and have him charged by the police as it is obvious that he is a molester. People like him should be locked up and the key thrown away.
jonathanMar 16 2003 11:48amFLAGMe and my stepdad have disliked each other for about 10 years and its gotten worst lately now that im about to leave for college. But experience has taught me that you can change any situation by changing your attitude about it. Ignoring it or simply being angry and depressed doesnt help. You need to realize that he might be troubled about something from his past or just so sad he cant express it unless he makes others miserable. So all you can do is pray about the situation and use your sense f humor to look at things as if theyre not as bad as they seem. Im almost out of here, and you will leave one day soon also. Keep hoping and praying. And LAUGH.
RecuperatingSoulMar 24 2003 4:57pmFLAGwell i have a stepdad who has been living with us for almost 6 years I HATE HIM SO MUCH!!! he thinks he is my dad and he thinks that he is in charge of me. me and my mom used to be so close till he came in the picture she loves him so much.. but then again shes changed so i say screw them both
a nice personMar 28 2003 2:32pmFLAGIf you ever get in a situation with your step-dad, you should kick him in the balls and slap him in the ing police and tell them to get over there. Screw hiM!!!!
NikoApr 01 2003 10:46amFLAG
my stepdad calls me fat and lazy all the time it gets me down-why ruin ur life over a loser like that though? good luck with everything x
KayApr 27 2003 3:20pmFLAGkay im with you dont worry my stepdad calls me the same thing everyday i only weigh 99lbs but all you guys need to tell some one how you fell like agrandperent or someone you trust
babygirlMay 26 2003 6:38pmFLAGKICK HIM SO HARD IT WON'T BE FUNNY!!!!!
90MITSUECLIPSEGSX@mitsubishicars.comMay 27 2003 11:01amFLAGPunch your step-dad in the d*ck so hard he'll pass out.
NWA said the POLICE!Jun 10 2003 9:42amFLAGU know, I know exacly how u feel!! I hate my stepdad soo much and I only live with him for 2 years. I cannot stand him! The good thing is that
I am leaving for college in 2 months, but my mom and my brother will be stuck with him!:(
anynonymousJun 17 2003 12:37pmFLAGIf ur that tired of him, vall the police and tell them he molested u. I did that, and haven't seen him in 3 months
ZeoJun 17 2003 2:22pmFLAGIf ur that tired of him, call the police and tell them he molested u. I did that, and haven't seen him in 3 months
ZeoJun 17 2003 2:27pmFLAGi was sexually abused by my stp dad i in hate him to the point tha i moved out to live with my grandparents and now i dont even get to see my mom or nothin i suggest you talk to her about him aighhhhhht cos im guessin she'll think your more important then wha he is and maybe if your lucky get rid of him
AnonymousJul 23 2003 6:11amFLAGmy step dad is so mean hes always yelling at me and calling me names.he even hit me once along time ago.he takes away my cds so whenever he calls me stuff i sing songs that im not sopost to know or iscream.he even made me not see my real dad so i always tell him i hate him and he sends me to my room and leaves me alone.screaming works every time.
purple girlAug 10 2003 12:48pmFLAGmy step dad is so mean too.he doesnt even let me see my real dad.he even makes me walk three miles to school every day.im only thir**** and i have to do everything on my own i even watch my sisters 247.he controlls my mom.whenever he calls me names i call him names and dont stop so that he feels bad.or i scream he hates screaming.
purple girlAug 10 2003 12:58pmFLAGPlease talk to your mom, if you can't try a counselor at school. As for That a-hole step dad who wrote in earlier, please do not listen to that sick pervert. You need help from someone who cares. You might feel alone but you are not. Find strength in yourself. You have more power than you know. Find help in your local community. In the front of your phone book you should find Local agencies that will help you for free. Please look them up.
AnonymousAug 24 2003 7:50amFLAG yo i cant cant stand my dad i might be but i get soo tired of him i socke him in the face thta dumass got diabetes and hes such a jack ass and a jerk my step dada i fell the same way like u kick his asssss?????? p.s. i insestes
bryanSep 19 2008 6:25pmFLAGyeah me too he is a jerk and I hate him!!!! and I am only !!!and my mom doesnt care!!!! and my real dad has drunk problems so I dnt know what to do??? any advice?????
loekieMay 27 2010 12:22pmFLAGi hate my step dad soooo much too and my mom always go out with him often and leave me and my sister in the house. she loves him tooo much to leave him and i just cant stand being around him but if i dont respect him, my mom will hate me and punish me. i just wish i could start my whole life over again
sadgirlNov 02 2010 6:15amFLAGI am in the same boat. My step dad is depressed all the time and it is so annoying- he puts a downer on everything- birthdays, christmas etc. He gets jealous that I have a job and buy new clothes (HE IS 'TOO DEPRESSED' TO WORK).I even pay a decent amount of rent and it still isn't good enough for him. He always has a go at me in his patronising voice!! My Mum wont leave him even though she is starting to get depressed from him. He has even split my mum's family up so she doesn't see them any more. I can't stand any of it any more so I am moving out in a couple of months !!! Yay for me :) I will start my own HAPPY life away from that BASTARD!! XD haha makes me smile. :D
I.hate.my.step-dad.club.Apr 27 2011 10:39amFLAGI have had a step dad since i was 4 and i am 24 now. when i was a little girl he was nice but as i got older that all changed. dont get me wrong i am greatful for the things he has done. i just hate the way he treats me. he always said things like u will never make it or dream on when i would tell them i wanted to do things like go to college. i really think if i would have had more encouragement i would have made it. i moved out when i was bc of him. i walk in a room n he walks out. i dont get it
words cut deepJun 29 2011 5:41pmFLAGi know how u feel my stepdad is the same way the best thing to do is steer clear of ur dad or tell ur mom how u feel. avoid ur stepdad as much as possible if he does anything call the police and they will lock him up for good.
i feel ur painAug 07 2011 10:35amFLAG
I can relate alot to yall my real dad was in the military and passed away i got money from him when he died ...my stepdad treats me like ing block off put i know he will call the cops so its not worth it..i do not have no respect for him at all ..we live in florida and hes moving to montana with my mom that fat basterd..sorry for all the cursing but this is the way i feel i cant stand him
EverettNov 03 2011 4:00amFLAGA lot of gheto sounding stories here, some I can relate to. My step dad is a real douche bag... he kisses ass to my mom so much that she doesn't believe the stories I tell her... I WISH he would punch me so I could call the poliece but he just verbally abuses me and is always in a pissy mood... Same issues here, he thinks he's my dad and can boss me around... I'm okay with him giving me chores but he takes it too far... 3 more years til college :(
yr old guyDec 16 2011 10:16pmFLAGwhoever that "a hard step dad" is.. that is really creepy. you must be sitting in your mother's basement thinking that people will someday love u. no they wont you inbred creep
i hate "a hard step dad"May 24 2012 9:16pmFLAGAfter reading that I feel so much better. My mum had me as a ****ager and when growing up she never really had time for a boyfriend. A few years ago she got married and initially I liked him and even changed my surname. Since then they've had 3 kids and now I'm a complete outsider. I get the worst of everything and he treats me like his servant. He even made me quit college so ui could get a job and pay rent. I can't help thinking he was only nice to me to start so he could get into mum's pants. He's lost all my respect. I don't know how to change the situation
:(May 31 2012 3:24pmFLAGI have the same problem. When my stepdad first moved in he was really nice to me and I felt as if I could trust him he bought me things I wanted and was genuinely nice to me but that was when I was 10 now im and things started going downhill when I was 4months ago we had a really big argument because I said I feel as if im getting abused to my mum he went mental he made my mum and little sisters cry and leave the house he broke my nose and made the vision in one of my eyes go blurry he kicks me out of the house and maybe 2hours later calls the police and says I ran away he calls me stupid and dumb a waste of space and that I should go live else where my closest relatives live 210 miles away and I feel as if im trapped I've told mum and she says im over exaggerating and she loves him to much to leave him he likes my two sisters more than me and he also calls me lazy when infact I do ALL the house work
jamesNov 03 2012 3:11pmFLAGdo everything he asks perfectly, try and make no mistakes at all. record every job you do. if he complains sshow your mum. if he doesnt do anything for you, do nothing for him
anonymouseNov 24 2012 5:48pmFLAGyou need to straight up tell him the things that he says emotionally hurt you.. if he gets mad then well it happens, but its a better time now then ever to let things out, proceed to ask him if it makes him feel tough to make fun of a young girl? tell him he needs to go to parenting classes if he thinks that what he say is ok. let it all out for real ive been in your shoes my stepdads a d*ckhead too... maybe he will get over it the next day or better yet maybe he will be mad and not talk to you but if i were you i would confront him... just guilt trip him, make him feel like . it is proven to work, trust me
mystepdadsuckstooJan 08 2013 3:39pmFLAGjust learn not to take that uncalled for from people, take my advice it will help you down the road.. make sure not to be snotty when you confront him though, be as sincere as you can. this way he will feel bad if he yells at you
mystepdadsuckstooJan 08 2013 3:41pmFLAGI know how all of you feel my step dad will be like do this and this and one time i got send to the hospitql i was almost in a diabetes coma i did not know i had diabetes and the firts thing he asked is how mufh is this going to cost when i wws pretty much dieing
why me?Jan 11 2013 11:27amFLAGTalk to a school councillor or.. The most drastic measures and run away, but leave a note saying where you have gone. Always go to to a relative or a friends house close by.