The Problem: WEll i want to hold my boyfriends hand but im not sure if he wnts to so i want him to grab my hand first the closest i got to holdhing his hand is when i fell outside and hell help me up then hell wait like seconds and let me go after im already up can you tell me whats wrong?
Asked by: Dukesbabe at
09:00:47 AM, Wednesday, September 20, 2006 PDT
lol um its just hand holding its not like in marraige. just grab his hand 1 day
nbcvbSep 21 2006 6:54pmFLAGjust slowllyy grabb his handd he secretly wants you to!!
x0 SeXxY 0xSep 21 2006 8:17pmFLAGill would wate for him to do it firs he proble think you dont whant do hold his hand at my school everybody whats for there b-fiend to put there hands around them and hug them all-day
anonymousSep 21 2006 9:41pmFLAGjust ask him nicely if he wants to hold hands. DUAH!!!!
AnonymousSep 22 2006 11:48amFLAGgrab his had he'll be happy... trust me!
Britty-boohSep 22 2006 3:31pmFLAGgrab it then kiss him
boyproblemsSep 25 2006 2:58pmFLAGSeriously...Take a walk with him and while on the walk grab his hand.If he doesnt want you to, he will tell you and then just say okay.But, garentee, he wants you too.
MileyOct 10 2006 7:42pmFLAGWalk close to him and brush your hand against his... Hopefully he'll get the hint.
o.0Oct 19 2006 6:35pmFLAGwalk with him a while and then just reach out he's gonna want to hold your hand trust me
trustOct 23 2006 2:24pmFLAGJust go on a bench with a bunch of people and when you're talking make him out his hand on a bench and put yours on the bencha and thenjust grab his hand but never have your hand swetty.
DANCE DANCE ANGEL 66Jul 18 2007 10:23amFLAGI know how you felt for awhile, i had the same exact problem. I always wanted him to make the first move for eveything. but he wasnt doing anything! so one day i thought, what the hell, just grabbed his hand, and he said "thank you" i said "what for?" he said "i was nervouse YOU didn't want to hold my hand, now i know you do" its STILL going good with us, too!
?neverknow?Oct 10 2007 2:14pmFLAGjust do it your self cuz if you dont he will continue to think you dont want to hold his.
AnonymousApr 11 2008 7:02amFLAGi think it would be pretty akward if you asked him to hold ur hand... just go for the grab. i think he wants u to, but hes to nervous, and doesnt think that u want to , because u havent done so already.
anonymousSep 30 2008 3:13pmFLAG
hmm yeah he might be a little surprized or he might be really happy that you held his hand first but i think that you should deff go for it. me and my boyfriend are having the same problem. i was watchin a movie at his house and we were sitting so close to each other but he wouldnt hold my hand! and then the next day i was like "hmmm, as close as we were sitting, im surprized you didnt hold my hand". and he was like "i didnt know you wanted me to". gosh, guys are so stupid. lol
so yeah you should just go for it.
and im also guessing that you want to know how to. umm, i guess if you guys are sitting down and he has his hand on his lap you should put your hand on top of his and then look at him and smile. he should get the point. or when your walking you could inch your fingers into his hand. it would probably be cute that way too. :D
cause if you grab it right away you might startle him.
anyways.....i hoped this helped!
nickyDec 11 2008 7:33pmFLAGOne day i just grabed his hand and he said thanks and he was happy so i was happy and just go for it
jdsNov 01 2009 1:20pmFLAGGo... 4 It! He Will Never Get Mad!
A Gurl Wit A DreamFeb 10 2010 11:24amFLAGok i think u should go get his hand softly u dont want to freak him out so just get it and squezze it he wont get mad my bf was scared to hold my hand idk why so i just got it and i was like hi babe and kept on holding it for the whole p.e period the next day he said your hand was soft and we just started to luagh it worked i was happy hope it works
julliet babeMar 26 2010 11:25pmFLAGI had the same problem to just hold it he isn't gonna get mad. What i did was i had my hand on my boyfriends arm and slowly ran my hand down then i grabbed his. Then his next step could be kissing you sense then he no u not afraid to by holding his hand
Gymnastics chick 99Nov 18 2010 3:18pmFLAGjus hold his hand if he loves you hell hold your hand and wont feel awkward about it period. be a go getter jus go for it
shedevilApr 28 2011 7:07amFLAGi used to have the same prob.my bf was sporty though so i challenged him to a race and when we got done i high fived him and put my fingers through his.hope it helped.
AnonymousJul 21 2011 8:13pmFLAGYou should just walk next to him and slowly put your hand in his it will work trust me
BeonkaAug 11 2011 7:24pmFLAGYou should just go for it when i was at lunch with my bf we were surrounded by his friends i was in the middle nd he was on my write so i just put my hand on his knee nd he just put his hand on mine nd there we linked fingers hope this workd :)
AnggeelllSep 11 2011 8:24amFLAGOh my gosh I was totally looking for advice like this!!! But I'm way to scared I will freak out my single friends who have never had a bf!! Plz help!
Thanks I will go for itMar 27 2012 5:31pmFLAGJust hold it he will love you for it:)
MeApr 17 2012 3:35pmFLAGjust grab his hand he'll love it he's probably nervous or afraid you wont like it
AnonymousJul 01 2012 10:16pmFLAGTap his hand or hold your hand out and look down at your hand. It'll make him look down. He'll probably hold your hard :D
That One GirlJul 03 2012 8:42pmFLAGI have the same problem but people r like just hold it! Im like well it's not that easy omg!! Maybe I'll try it tomorrow ;) idk:) haha
MeSep 10 2012 1:45pmFLAGYou should move the back of his hand with your and if he dosen't get the hint just go for it and take his hand.trust me he wants you to
awesome 1Sep 13 2012 7:33pmFLAGjust take his hand he really wants you to.
peopleSep 13 2012 7:34pmFLAGI think i want to try it i have been waitin the whole time since we were datin man i hope he pool away i was just sayin to my friend u just walk up to h an say u got soethin to show him an grab his hand an then just start to walk and u guyz r holdin hands lol i was thinkin this but i never had the guts to do itnow i do
Kya (skittlez)Oct 12 2012 9:18amFLAG
It is not that easy. I am having the same problem. One day he went to go grab my hand in the hallway way but some guy tripped him and he fell. :(. He keeps asking me if we can hold hands and kiss but he haven't done anything yet!!!!!!😡 I asked him why he didn't and he said that there were to many people and he was nervous. Some time s I have no clue how he got the guts to ask me out if he can't even hold my hand?!?!?
😮Oct 17 2012 8:38pmFLAGMy bf did the same thing but when we got to school HE WOULDN'T DO ANYTHING!!!! He would just act like we never talked about it. I got so mad. But I don't know what to do.
SameOct 17 2012 8:44pmFLAGGO 4 IT! I'm still like that w/ my bf Austin but he always puts his pinky finger in my hand right before he holds my hand and when we hold hands we both smile a huge smile!!!! :) it's gonna b ok!
AAM <3 U Austin!!!Oct 18 2012 12:34pmFLAGThis is what I did, I invited him to FCA and we both sat together. His leg was touching my leg and we both only had 1 hand in our laps ( the hand closest to each other) then I slightly moved my hand towards his then he put his fingers in the palm of my hand then he put his on top of mine to see if I was ok with it then I was too impatient and wrapped my fingers in his like we were praying. We both smiled and of course at homecoming we held hands I love him 4ever!!
I WUV AUSTINOct 18 2012 12:43pmFLAGYea! Im from iowq park and at my school if ur single the ue laim and im a cheer leader and im daring a football play (travis wiens) and i love him and trust me if he truley loves u then he well loce it wen u just grab his and and act like itz no big deal. K guys??
dani <3 i love travis! ;-)Nov 23 2012 12:10pmFLAGI know how it feels I've been there done that all u have to do is grab it gently then look into his eyes and smile. He will be fine with it. Trust me
1D (one derection) love!!!!Dec 13 2012 2:54pmFLAGHe wants to hold ur hand but he is to afraid some people r to scared if u r look into his eyes and touch his hand then he will get the idea and hold ur hand
Lovebirds!!!:)Dec 13 2012 2:57pmFLAGOk here are two answers: short and long
Long: Drop some things for a few days in a week and brush his hand when you bend down to pick it up
Short: Just grab his hand, but not tightly like a weird person, softly, and when he looks at you like "why'd you grab my hand?!" give him aOk here are two answers: short and long
Long: Drop some things for a few days in a week and brush his hand when you bend down to pick it up
Short: Just grab his hand, but not tightly like a weird person, softly, and when he looks at you like "why'd you grab my hand?!" give him a flirty smile
i'm in middle school and have a boyfriend too
Make it work girls!!!!!!!!!!:)Dec 13 2012 3:02pmFLAGLove Love Love make it happen and you will be fine
LoveDec 13 2012 3:04pmFLAGOMG today I just asked him to hold my hands and then he kissed my hand and told me that we will be together but, there is only one problem I am moving to a different state! Hetold me that he wants a long distance relationship but what do I do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????????????????
Help Me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Dec 14 2012 7:01pmFLAGI feel the same aha!
I know the feeling!Dec 17 2012 11:04amFLAGjust go for it as if he wont even hold your hand then theres no point u goin out. dont worry i know its harder than it sounds but he will be grateful.
noneof yourbuisnessDec 22 2012 2:59amFLAGWell I'm having the same problem I just got a boyfriend and I want to hold his hand but idk if he wants to though :-| I don't want to tell him anything but idk sooooooooooo. Just grab his hand:-) hope this helps
beyflxDec 25 2012 8:13pmFLAGWell the thing is I want to hold his and and I have touched it cos we hugged and when we went out the hug I basically went down his arms and sort of held his hand abit except we both had to go so it Diddnt work and I Duno what to do next
The script lover Jan 09 2013 2:48pmFLAGnt bf is to scarred to hold my hand omg today he sat next to me and i wanted to hold his hand but i was nervous
cookiesJan 15 2013 2:49pmFLAGIt was a cold day he asked me if my hands were cold I said yes he grabbed it and said not anymore but I don't no if he will hold it again it was only for 10 mins :(
The script loverJan 21 2013 3:29pmFLAGI think I will try to jus grab his and In class tomorrowim so excited but I've never did it before so I'm kinda scared a lil but I'm goin to go for it thanks for all the good advice everyone ill get on here tomorrow and tell y'all if it worked!!!!
I Luv Braden Jan 23 2013 3:14pmFLAGEvery one has been saying r u really dating and saying u have been together a week I want him to hold my hand but what if everyone is looking at us?
vFeb 26 2013 2:11pmFLAGWall past him say hey sexy put your arm around him then as your pulling away kinda touch his hand and just start holding it. Be confident he will like it
SexybeastFeb 28 2013 4:22pmFLAGHeYy people, I have the same problem and I really don't know what to do. The one minute I think I can do it and the next I think "what if he doesn't like the idea"...help please
zeEe Mar 01 2013 10:47pmFLAGwill yhea i will do that.
by sexy loveApr 09 2013 4:50pmFLAGhey i am a guy, and i would`ve held her hand if she grabbed it, i just don't know when to..
0May 20 2013 5:23amFLAGjust slowly put your hand t words his hand and start to hold his hand and if he pulls away it is okay he is just nervous so just lock pin-keys with him
nicole it always works outJun 19 2013 10:32amFLAGIts cos hes nervous
Mmm mmmJul 07 2013 1:54amFLAGdon't make a big deal its scary at first then it feels great!
luv my bfSep 02 2013 11:27amFLAGjust go for it i had the same problem i was scared to and on day we were walking and he said will u hold my hand and i just said sure soo.. yay!! good luck
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OXXyNqDLWOct 23 2013 8:40amFLAGmy bf wont hold my hand at school even though when were alone, he does....sometimes. its almost as if hes not my bf at school and hes just a friend...guys are stupid...
yo mamaNov 13 2013 5:37pmFLAGMy bf hasn't held my hand yet,but that's because we have been dating for one day. Like everyone else is saying,Just go for it. Don't wait on him,you make the first move. Also maybe he is just nervous,everyone is at one point in time.Trust me i'm nervous when i'm next to him but not anymore. :) hoped this helped!! Oh and p.s. some boys don't know the signal that girls want to hold hands. :)
Miranda wuvs ErronNov 19 2013 5:30pmFLAGJust do it I have the same problem with my bf but I just did it yesterday actually and he was like thank you and then I kissed him lol
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