My boyfriends best friend likes me and I think I have a crush on him!
The Problem: My bf best friend is this guy that i worked with b4 and he was the one that introduced me to his friend 9my bf now) and we're in love but recently I have had feelings for his friend and visa versa what do I do?? But I really love my bf?? Im confused.HELP ME!!!
Asked by: I dunno12 at
05:14:07 AM, Thursday, November 25, 2004 EST
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u av feelins for his best mate u cnt love him dat much dats lyke the worst way to hurt him
I felt the same way I like my Bf BestFriend Judson.Him and me would hang out just me and him no Bf or anything.I really started to like him alot But when i was with my boyfriend it changed. But in the End we broke up And Judson Now likes one of MyBest friends And im With his little Brother.. And Now I couldnt be any happier. So just see what goes on wiht your Bf.. and it could be happ ever after :)
JosiahsGirl22Nov 25 2004 2:01pmFLAGOk, according to you, you love your boyfriend, and have a crush on your boyfriends friend. Whats more important?...Love...Crush...Love...Crush...I'm gunno go with love, but it's your life.
Yo 'mammaNov 27 2004 1:12amFLAGYou know what....i think you should wait..and wait..wait and the answer will come shortly...if you love both and dont know wich one...like i said WAIT
DIANANov 27 2004 1:22amFLAGYou know what....i think you should wait..and wait..wait and the answer will come shortly...if you love both and dont know wich one...like i said WAIT
AnonymousMay 12 2005 3:59amFLAG
do u know what i will give u some advice keep your boy friend and learn to love him as much what ever you do do not cheat on him its not fair u wouldn't like it if he did it to you would you and you shouldn't be looking at other lads in that way should you really just don't tlk to him and avoid him then there u go
annonomusMay 12 2005 4:03amFLAGi think u should them both off cos lads arn't worth it doesn't matter who u love because they are all swines
anonymousMay 12 2005 4:04amFLAGjust shut the up and get rid off his mate out of the picture u don't need him do not ever cheat on ur bf cos he will get hurt
lindaMay 12 2005 4:07amFLAGI'm in the same boat... and guess what, i went with my boyfriends best friend, and im more happy than i have ever been in my life! so honestly, i'd go with the friend!! :)
kisSep 02 2005 3:55pmFLAGYea I toatally know how your feeling i like my bf bestfriend, and im not sure what to do either i know he likes me butim afraid to tell im how i feel, i think that i should tell him that i have a crush on his bestfriend....and see what he has to say
ChelseaOct 02 2005 8:21amFLAGim feel the same too. you never know it could be the friend you actually love and the boyfriend may be more of a crush. If you are not totally happy with your boyfriend though, you should end it.
AnonymousOct 12 2005 9:06pmFLAGi think you should wait and see what happens im in it the same and its the worst feeling all i do is think about his bestfriend and whats bad he did admit him feeling but i played it off im also great friends with his grilfriend so think before befor doing anything wait and see
same boatNov 09 2005 4:21pmFLAGHey, I'm in the same boat. I like my boyfriend's best friend (we'll call him Z), and Z likes me back. However, Z is going out with MY best friend. We just talked about our feelings for each other last night, and all i can do is dwell on them. What should I do???
KimberlyApr 13 2006 5:45pmFLAGIf I was in the same situation I would choose my bf. How would you feel if your bf liked your friend?
choose your boyriendApr 27 2006 1:37pmFLAGI'm going with choose your boyfriend on this one.
jesseApr 27 2006 1:38pmFLAGWell actually I'm in the same situation, and trust me it's not a happy ending so step far away from the situation as possible and let's say this never happend. But if it's to much for you drop both of them so you won't hurt neither, or yourself.
O'NeshiaMay 25 2006 1:52pmFLAGomg i am in the same situation too, like i love my bf but i really like his best friend and his best friend said he liked me too , like i wish there was a way to be with both of them lol but that would never happen so i think you should juss wait and see how things play out thats wat im goin to do..
<3brittanyJun 06 2006 5:54pmFLAG
well this is what i would do i would find out who i love more and follow my heart to c who i really care for
sweetie_5Oct 06 2006 7:43amFLAGi am in the same sutuation... i have a boyfriend tht i love but his bestfriend likes me and i like him... but im just wating and see how thinks work out and i think u should do the same if the friend comes to u and tells u he really wants to be with you and he wont lie to u or anything well then u have to chose who u want... dont be with the one u dont want be with the one u want... think about which one u like and the one want to be with then pick tht guy if its the freind then just let ur bf down easily dont tell him u like his friend just tell him u think u guys make better friends...ok??? i hope u can finger it out.
Apr 02 2007 9:54amFLAGsee again another girl that is in the same boat but worse..the best friends girl is in another state at the moment and now they are fighting.. but the thing is, is that i dont want a relationship and i know he doesnt either..i just want to be alone with him for like a day and just get out of my system..but i am taking control..i couldn't do that to my man..but he makes it hard not to..he's contolling and just makes me feel like dirt when i havent even hinted that i would ever want to do anything with anyone else.. i dont know i just want someone to program it in to me that cheating on him with the best bud is just not happening..but i guess thats just too easy huh?! sorry when it gets down to it think about the result...and how everyday afterward is not going to be the same...if its worth it and you can live with the after affects..do it... otherwise keep as that little fantasy!
AnonymousMay 30 2007 4:00pmFLAGGirl Im In The Same Situatuion!
me and my bf have been together for over a year and im starting to have feelings for his best friend/ room mate. idk me and my bf have been fighting alot and his friend is who i call when i need someone to talk to so we have been talking nonstop... so idk... im just going to wait to see what happens but im not telling my bf till i kno what i want... hope this helps
breanna collinsFeb 28 2008 9:16amFLAGtalk to the friend about their feelings and go from there. if you love your boyfriend he is the one u should be with trust me i went through the same thing and this worked out for the best still with my boyfriend
callerMar 07 2008 8:22pmFLAG them have a three way wohoooooo
jk love rich
dsareitMar 07 2008 8:23pmFLAGYeah I am in the same place. I am engaged and I a falling for his best friend. I still don't know what to do, but it is killing me inside.
HollyMar 31 2008 8:04amFLAGThe way i see it...is if you LOVE your boy, you might be physically attracted to other guys, but as for emotionally attracted...if you are emotionally attracted, chances are that your current guy isnt "the one..."
TarynSep 27 2008 1:06amFLAGI feel the same way, I find myself doing little things to catch his eye. But I know that he feels something for me. He's showed it and done it. Its KILLING me cause I fit with him so much more than my boyfriend.
I think he belongs with meJun 22 2009 12:14pmFLAGIs it really LOVE or are your just comfortable with him; do u really have things in common. You might have more in common with his friend. Your the only one who knows that answer.
Renee'Sep 11 2010 7:52amFLAGI think the most important thing is if they make you feel more ... alive, real, you etc. because I am stuck. Both guys really do it for me and there have been "incidents" that were dodgy but I literally feel the same way about both of them but I have known one longer .. ? Help??
VJul 17 2011 8:26pmFLAGOMG! We are totally in the same boat! My boyfriend introduced me to his best friend, and today (Valentine's Day) my boyfriend got me a teddy bear, mug that says, "I love you :)", and - my favourite - SOURPATCH KIDS (cute!), but his friend likes me, and he got me a red rose (romantic!) . . . They are both REALLY great guys! But, what do I do???
SUH-MOKINN HAWTFeb 14 2012 5:34pmFLAGHonestly, I'm completely in the same boat as you. I've been fighting all urges, and I've been waiting. I don't want to tell my boyfriend, 'cause I really don't want to get him and his best friend fighting. I feel horrible for having these feelings neither of them know I have, but it's what has to be done. I'm just waiting, time will tell you what you're supposed to do. One thing I will tell you: don't cheat. If you cheat, that hurts your boyfriend bad, not to mention kills their entire friendship.
AnonymousMar 21 2012 12:59pmFLAGThis is not an unusual situation. I have a BF and I have a big crush on his friend and that friend's brother. I think it's just chemistry, because I'm attracted to both brothers in the same way and it's very intense. In the end, love should take precedence. I see my situation as a test that I hope my BF will have (or has had) the strength to pass as well. Crushes come and go. Love is a higher law. Besides, it's fun to have secret crush and if it doesn't work out with your BF, you can always revisit the spark with the friend, if it's still there.
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